Any emotion which feels “bad” is actually really a super-juicy opportunity! Like a flag on the play, it’s a signal to me that there is something to look at here. It means my emotional guidance system is working. Yaay, me!

When I feel a so-called “negative” emotion, it’s usually a sure sign that I’m running off in a direction *opposite* to what I want … perhaps thinking a thought about what I do *not* want … putting the focus in the wrong place.

I find myself mulling over an old relationship, reliving some of the yukky, not-so-fun things that occurred. I’m putting on a little mock theater experience in my mind, acting all the roles, saying all the lines.

Flag on the play! Stop for a minute. Take a look. What was I just doing? What was I just thinking? What is at the root of this pesky little emotion? And the big question …

What do I *really* want?

So now I can pivot and turn towards the thing that I desire. Looking at the play, I notice that I was remembering how someone had gotten angry over a tiny blip. Wow, how great is that … in this “bad” emotion is a signal showing me what I *do* want: I would love to be in a relationship with someone who is easygoing, loving and supportive.

Have I ever experienced something like that? Absolutely! Let’s relive *that* experience. There is the proof that it is possible.

Have *I* myself ever been easygoing? Absolutely! I can be really great at that. Wonderful! More proof!

What can I do in my own life right now to *be* the thing that I desire? I want an easygoing person in my life … how can I fully *live* that easygoing spirit myself? Let me be on the lookout today for opportunities to embrace and fully exude “easygoing.”

Let’s start building the scenery for a play like *that*!

It’s not bad that I feel a painful emotion. It’s like experiencing pain when you touch the fire and your hand jerks back. It’s helping you. You want to feel that. It’s a signal … “Look out! Pivot and go the other way!”

And if I take it as that, as information, as my emotional guidance system doing it’s job perfectly and beautifully and completely serving me, then I can move through this with ease and grace, appreciating the gift.

You cannot feel joy while you are focusing upon something not wanted, or the lack of something wanted … By reaching for the best-feeling thought you can find, you reconnect with that perspective, and you shiver with exhilaration as you reconnect with your purpose, with your zest for life— and with You!

— Law of Attraction, Esther and Jerry Hicks

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“Every time you appreciate something, every time you praise something, every time you feel good about something, you are telling the Universe: ‘More of this, please.’ You need never make another verbal statement of this intent, and if you are mostly in a state of appreciation, all good things will flow to you.A desire to appreciate is a very good first step, and then as you find more things that you would like to say ‘thank you’ about, it quickly gains momentum. And as you want to feel appreciation, you attract something to appreciate. And as you appreciate it, then you attract something else to appreciate, until, in time, you are experiencing a “Rampage of Appreciation.”

Ask and It Is Given, The Processes – Esther and Jerry Hicks

Creating a Rampage of Appreciation is a nice, quick, down-n-dirty way to shift your emotions and your state of mind to a good, good place. The other day, I found myself experiencing some pretty nasty little emotions around my ex-boyfriend no longer being here. I decided to try this on for size … to flex my appreciation muscle.

Someone said, “He showed you his inner schmuck and now by no longer being around, he is protecting you from all of his schmuckiness.”

Aah yes, sounds EXACTLY right to me! (wink-wink!) What? But that thought feels so goooood!

… which is a wonderful transition from my upset state. Laughter often does this.

Ok, so now I’m ready … on to the things I truly appreciate about the time we spent together. Let the Rampage begin!

• Safe and secure: He was the FIRST guy I truly, truly, from the depth of my being, felt safe and secure with. I’ve actually never felt that with ANYTHING or ANYONE in my life. So now that I know what that feels like, I’m focused on giving it to MYSELF.
• Abundance: He would always pay for everything, think of me when he was out shopping and fully support me. It felt great! I’ve come to realize that I’d like to take care of MYSELF financially and to bring myself up to the level where I feel secure and abundant. Not because someone else is giving that to me but because *I* am doing it.
• Aligning: Witnessing his anger, it came into super-clear focus that I’m almost always misaligned with the people I date … sweet as they are, they almost never share my beliefs / my view of the world. I’ve come to see that I want to be with someone who is more in alignment with my values and my way of “being” in the world … I desire a relationship with someone who mainly operates from his higher self.
• Cooking!: He always cooked for me, which was WONDERFUL and as my food-needs changed, he began cooking healthy foods for me, yaay! Just this week I cooked healthy food for MYSELF, remembering him and thanking him for this gift. In the past, I always chose the quickest option but soon I began appreciating fresh new foods and loved the trying of unique things and the cooked foods … Now I’m embracing the idea of cooking new things for MYSELF!
• Responsible and capable: He was wonderfully responsible and had a schedule of things he’d take care of each day like clockwork. I was able to see how GOOD it felt to have these everyday things taken care of consistently.
• Focus: He didn’t have a gazillion things in his life, he had certain responsibilities which he faithfully took care of and then he was freed up to completely and clearly and with ease focus on the select other things he chose to add. This felt like a breath of fresh air. I have not yet mastered this but I saw how good it felt and I look forward to the day when this will come into play for me in my own world.
• The power of NOW: He took care of things right away. You would mention something to him and >boom!< he had addressed it, WOW! That felt amazing. He could do that because of the clearing-of-the-schedule and the focusing-on-the-most-important things. Putting things on a to-do list / the back burner / “things hanging over your head” was NOT his style and I saw clearly and beautifully how wonderful it felt to take care of something in the moment.
• Loving Friends: I rediscovered my friends post-relationship and came to realize how powerful of an effect they have on my life and how much I need that connection in order to stay healthy. They are a wonderful support system for me.
• Col’s Spirit: Post-relationship, I am fully aware of WHO I AM in this world and what is special about me. There are certain things he reacted to which are so wonderfully a part of me like how I treat others … these things I am not willing to lose! I want to celebrate who I am!
• Healthy in Relationship: With him I was able to practice in a big way staying in peace and love while someone I adore is majorly not being how I would prefer for them to be. I was able to see that I am capable of keeping my standards and not giving back the negativity that it seemed I was receiving. I saw so clearly that I am sooooo totally and overwhelmingly capable of having a great relationship with a healthy-ish person. (What about the “ish”? Most people are capable of being a tad unhealthy from time to time … so I’m referring to someone who is for the most part healthy in spirit!)

Thank you, precious, for these gifts.

The main thing when doing a Rampage of Appreciation is how you FEEL about what you are saying. Are you truly and fully in a state of gratitude? You will KNOW it if you are because it FEELS soooo good.

And I can truly say, “I am.”

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Here’s a meditation using the word “One” as your mantra. Listen in and tell me if it sounds familiar:

“One … oh, I feel my body relaxing already … it’s almost like I can feel a warm energy moving down over my shoulders … isn’t that amazing … I wonder why I like this so much and I actually hardly ever sit down to do it … it’s because life is so busy … I can’t believe how many phone calls there were on my voice mail … sometimes I wonder … why even have voice mail … why even have an answering machine … drives me crazy it would be better off not to have anything and either I’m home or I’m not home … and this e-mail, people think you’re gonna return their e-mail in an hour as if there’s nothing else to do every morning at the computer, two hours at the computer with the damn e-mail all of this to save time time time I’m supposed to be meditating … One.”

example of an average meditation,
as described by Joan Borysenko in 
-The Beginner’s Guide to Meditation

If you’re like me, this is EXACTLY what your meditation looks like. It may even be EXACTLY why you do NOT meditate! But here’s the thing: We’re all in the same boat and it’s OK. The main thing is your intention. The fact that you have intended this is where the magic lies.

You can reap the benefits of meditation simply by setting aside ten minutes a few days a week and TRYING. And being easy on yourself. If your mind wanders off, don’t judge, simply bring yourself back to your mantra.

Know that thoughts will appear. It’s natural. It doesn’t mean you stink at this and should give up.

Lighten up! Meditate wonderfully badly. If you do this, I promise, some day you will meditate wonderfully well.

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In The Beginner’s Guide to Meditation CD program, world-renowned author and lecturer Joan Borysenko leads you through the specifics of three distinct forms of meditation (concentration, mindfulness, and a centering prayer) and discusses the common pitfalls that sabotage these practices.

With depth and humor, Joan shows you which form of meditation is best for you, and points out that by making it a daily part of your life, better health and peace of mind are just a few breaths away.

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